How to Date a Cougar
2013年4月6日星期六
What Is a Cougar?
The typical
description of a cougar is a woman who is 40 plus and on the hunt for a much
younger man. The age gap is usually 10 plus years. The cougar woman can be
married, divorced or single. She may be looking for a long term relationship
with a younger man or she may just be looking for a good time. Most of the time
a woman who is called a cougar has money and can also be viewed as a sort of
sugar mama. However, it is important to realize that this is not always the
case and that a cougar does not have to have money or social standing to be
considered a cougar.
What Do Cougars
Look for in Men?
The first and most
obvious thing a cougar is looking for is a much younger man with fire in his
veins in the sexual arena. Remember that cougars are at their sexual prime and
so they are looking for a man who can keep up. A cougar woman usually wants a
fun loving, carefree guy who is willing to try anything. She has grown tired of
the boring "same old-same old" she gets from guys her own age. She
wants a guy who she can walk around with an show off and then take home and
devour. Keep in mind that you can easily scare a cougar off if she feels like
you want to own her. While there are some cougars who want to engage in long
term relationships with younger men, most of them are in it for the fun and do
not want any strings attached. If you are an emotional sap who gets attached
easily be aware that you may get hurt messing around with a cougar.
How Not to Behave
Around a Cougar
One huge mistake
that younger guys make when they are dealing with cougars is to try and act
much older and more mature than what they really are. Remember, your youth is
what she is looking for to begin with. Do not try to act like someone you are
not in order to impress her for this will surely backfire on you. In addition,
you never want to place too much emphasis on your difference in age. Yes, a
cougar woman wants a younger man but she does not want to be constantly
reminded about this. Saying things like "You look good for your age"
will not always win you brownie points. When offering compliments, leave the
age bit out. In addition, do not tell her you are out scoping out older women.
Neither you nor she will be oblivious to the fact that she is older and you are
hitting on her. Stay away from any reference to age just to be safe.
Do Not Become
Possessive
Chances are your
cougar woman may have just come out of a relationship in which she was
"supervised" too much. She may even be in a relationship now with
someone who drives her mad. If you are looking to keep your cougar for awhile
do not start asking her questions about where she is going and what she is
doing. Obviously, if she sets the field for this type of behavior by starting
it herself then let the games begins. But for the most part you will probably
find that cougar women are more mature than the 20 year old girls you are used
to dating. They have already been through all the games that people play and
are now just looking for some light hearted fun.
What to Talk About
on a Date With a Cougar
There are some
things you will want to avoid discussing with a cougar woman. Firstly, stay away
from raving about the frat party you were at last week or your favorite sports
team. Try focusing on more intelligent conversation but do stay away from
subjects like religion and politics. Talk about things you like to do, music
you enjoy, films you have seen recently and even your job but leave all of your
youth related antics out of the mix. You will also want to follow the same
rules of thumb concerning dating any woman. No woman, no matter how old wants
to hear about your other sexual conquests so stay away from discussing other
sex partners or past activities. And no matter what you do, do not start prying
into her sexual history right off the bat. You will at some point need to
discuss these matters if you plan to take the relationship to a sexual level
(of course you do) for sexual safety reasons. However, doing it on your first
couple of dates is tasteless.
The most crucial thing to keep in mind is that
while cougars are older women, they are still women. The same rules that apply
with any other date may just apply with your cougar woman. Every person is an
individual so stay away from stereo typing or assuming anything about the
lovely lady you are out with. Take some time to get to know each other and make
sure that you have the same goals in terms of what you are looking for from
each other.
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